What will people say ? Many of us must be familiar with this question which that little voice in your head keeps on poking you with over and over again. I have been a victim of this ” what will people say” syndrome for long too. To the extent that I tied myself to an invisible rope and handed over the other end to these “people” who pulled it up every time I tried to do things my way and made me smother my desires and dreams totally, until I started living the way they wanted .
Who are these “people “? and why do their opinions matter? There’s a whole crowd of such people. They could be our relatives, colleagues, neighbors or sometimes even random strangers. The shackles remain intact only the hands holding them change from time to time.And here you are seeking approval all the time, pleasing everyone and basically living your life “their way” as if that was the only thing you were sent to the earth for. Eventually there comes a time when you feel suffocated, and that kicks off the journey of being “you’.
For me it started off with reading all those encouraging and inspiring quotes we see on FB and other such places over the internet, and of course similar books too. They lift your spirits in an instant . I had decided to do things my way. To feel and behave the way I want to. And being “me” was the hardest task. This went on for a while and then again someone pulls the string. I crawl back and curl up inside the shell which by now was my comfort zone. The fear creeps in again, the fear of rejection, ridicule and of being labelled as a rebel.
But then you ask yourself how much their opinion matters and how much do ‘they’ matter in first place. How long will they judge you or discuss or talk about you. Once in a while,once a month , once a day. You’ll stay on their mind all the time only if you are the only business they have. Well in that case they are in deeper shit than you are. They need to reevaluate their lives, stop judging and “get a life’. Once the fear disperses you see clearly whats holding you down. It’s no one else but you. Eventually its you who decides how you want people to treat you. You set the standards. You preside over the negative committee that meets in your head and tells you you’re worth nothing. And once you get rid of the fear you see the masks and garbs of these “people” coming off and realize that the monsters you always feared were nothing but a bunch of lousy,opinionated fools hidden under those masks.
This is the moment you realize how fake you have been all your life and this is where the tough task of being yourself starts.
All you need to tell yourself is “Its okay not to be perfect”.
Its okay if you don’t dance well. Go ahead with it because you ‘want to’. They can watch or leave the party. Its okay if you laugh out really loud. It’s just that you are having fun and they’re not. Let them be jealous. 😀
Its okay If you don’t have that perfect height, perfect looks , perfect pout, perfect gait . At least you are not fake like the rest of them. Being imperfect is being real, being ‘you’.
Its okay if they stamp you as anti social for not hanging out with those morons, be proud to call yourself ‘selectively social’ instead. 😉
Its okay if you no longer sit with a fake smile, nodding and listening to their pointless stories.
Its okay if you no longer do that fake laugh at their lame jokes. Do only what ‘you’ want to do. No second thoughts, no doubts.
Refuse to be tamed down. Refuse to be confined and defined by their opinions anymore. Follow your heart and say a big “no” whenever required.
“I wont” because” I do not want to”. It’s as simple as that.
Say what you want , do what you want, wear what you want, eat what u want and drink ‘what’ you want, get high and kick the asses out of your life today. 😉 😉 Your future self will thank you for this.
Be free…Enjoy being real, enjoy being “you” . 🙂 🙂
“And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who could not hear the music…”
Celebrate life, live it , love it for you’ll always be criticized anyway by the ignorant ones